NICU Parent Perspective: Acknowledging the Loss of a Multiple in the NICU
NICU and bereaved mom Daree shared her experience with us, in the hopes that it will someday help someone else going through a similar experience.
"Emma spent 100 days in the same room that she and Oliver shared in the NICU. It was bittersweet to have to walk into that same room each day. Her roommates were almost always sets of twins. It was rough watching the parents hold their twins together for the first time, feeding them, watching them go home before us because they were born so much later than my Emma was.
"When they moved her out of that room, I was devastated. It was the last place they were together; I didn't want her moved. But in a way, it made it easier to visit her.
"I get the most comfort from sharing our story and finding others who have suffered a similar loss. It helps me to give them support and being almost nine years out from my loss, to give hope that they can survive this.
"Oliver is still very much a part of our family. After three long years of praying, we decided to have another baby. Josiah was born at 28 weeks. He spent 60 days in the NICU. It was almost worse being back there, because I knew too much. It was also like coming home."